5 Tips to Encourage Sporty Play with Reluctant Kids

Some kids have determined – often without much “experience” – that they just don’t like sports. It could be that they’ve had a hard time in gym class or that they think being outside away from technology seems unbearable. You ask them to go out and play, and the typical response is, “I don’t want to. I hate sports.” This is especially frustrating for parents who are sports fans and want to actually play with their kids!

Here are 5 tips for getting those “I hate sports” kiddos out in the yard with you! Please note that if you’re one of those parents whose kids don’t like to play sports with you because you mercilessly beat and mock them when you play, I can’t help you here! You know who you are. 😂

1. Challenge your child. For many people, when you say, “I don’t know if you can do that…,” their reaction is often to show you that they can. Try telling your child there’s no way she can kick a ball farther than you and see how she reacts – many children will be out the door ready to go before you can tie your shoes.
2. Lead by example. When asked to go out and shoot some hoops, your child’s first reaction may be a resounding, “No.” However, if you just walk outside, grab a ball, and start dribbling, they often slowly wander outside, watch for a few seconds, and then ask for the ball. You could even hum or whistle one of their favorite songs to draw them out…
3. Make a “game” out of it and start small. Instead of tossing your child into a full-blown game, create a mini-game with baby steps. For example, “Hey, want to see if you can hit the ball? How about if you can hit it 4 feet? 6 feet? 10?”
4. If you build it, they will come. This is similar to lead by example, but this is great to do when you have more than one child. If one of your children is refusing to play, tell them “Ok, that’s fine, it’s your choice.” Invite him to the sideline to watch. Don’t punish the child for not participating; let him know it’s his decision not to play. Then start the game with the others and enjoy yourselves! After two or three rounds, you may get a sheepish addition to your game.
5. Try one of their interests that you “don’t like.” This is good for all of us. So your kid doesn’t like sports but you want her to play? Ask her about one of her hobbies she’d like you to try and give it a go. You’ll learn more about each other, spend time together, and perhaps both pick up new hobbies you’d have never tried before. It’s also great for your kids to see you being flexible and trying new things.

Every child is different, and you will find different things that work for you. But the next time you hear “I hate sports!” or “I don’t want to!” – you’ll have a good idea on where to start.

Some info on the benefits of outdoor play:

Benefits of outdoor play for children by Medical News Today

12 benefits of outdoor play (and tips for helping kids reap these benefits) by Parenting Science